We can't help someone who doesn't want to be helped - one of the hardest lessons I've ever had to learn- especially considering I'm a coach for a living - I mean - I am in the job of helping people....but especially in my career I've learned this and I believe it's finally sunk in - that I can't help someone until they are truly ready for my help and want it…
And I'm a "fixer" to top it off- I want to fix everything - I want to solve problems - find solutions - fix flaws in systems and business - fix people -but that's not my job either - and to be honest I can FINALLY say with confidence that I truly figured this out.... An author I very much value once said "I used to want to fix people, now I just want to love them" - this always sang to me - but it just took a little while to sink in for implementation ….
The hardest part when you love someone though - and they don't want your help- is standing back and letting them go through whatever they are in - their pain- their hurts - their struggles.... We think because we love them that we need to help them - especially when we "think" we see the answers ....when sometimes the best way to love them is step back and let them go through it- but damn that is hard. We want what is best for a person, especially when we see all their beauty and worth….
But in both my professional life and even personal life - I've come to realize that nothing I can say or do or push will help someone else realize their beauty and worth - I can't force them to see what I see or experience - I just have to love them where they are at and be there in the way they need me to be (not the way I want to be) and hold positive vibrations that he or she will find their way- their way out of the dark- their way into their own greatness - their way into their worth - where their bright light shines from within.
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