I started thinking this morning about actions .... Well words vs actions .... I truly believe that actions are everything - they speak louder then any word! Words can be a great tool for communication, words can hurt, words contain meaning, words can feel good, but words can be abused, misused, and misleading. Anyone can use words, if even they hold no value, but actions show everything. Actions show truth, and most of the time without someone even trying. Sometimes someone can alter his/her actions to disguise the truth, but usually this requires them to be a really good actor. The truth usually shines through in actions even what words try to conceal. Often actions are natural, sometimes learned behaviors, but usually honest.
It's like the person who says they love you but then beats you. You hear I love you while feeling hated, but then they try to cover their actions up with apologies and more of "I love you". You feel lost not knowing what to believe torn between leaving and staying. The flip side is the person who says he/she doesn't believe in love but then she has love radiating off of her through everything she does - everything she is -her overall state of being. Perhaps she was burned and had a fear of being vulnerable - but the loving side still resides...
It's part of our makeup to want to believe the words so bad - but I think we would all be so much better off if we focused on being more in tune with actions and less with the spoken words. We would be able to live in more harmony, understanding each other so much more on a deeper level. We would experience so much less heartache, thinking of all the cruel words spoken that we let get into our heads - that we turn into a part of our story - our personal story. We want to so badly to believe the abusive partner truly loves us and wouldn't lie - that we stay and suffer, all the while we walk away from what could be true love...why?... Because we believe words.... Words tell stories, and they can be great for that- a lot of greatness can come from words and their stories - but through stories are often lies. And believe no one when he/she says "I don't lie" because we all lie to ourselves even when we don't know it - it doesn't make us good, bad, right, or wrong - it doesn't even make us imperfect...It makes us human.
I just think we can't allow words to have so much power over us when spoken whether good or bad - if we are too focused on our word we loose sight of our action. Actions create more meangingful experiences- I was just reading in this book how we know the truth because we "feel" the truth- the minute we try to label the truth with words we twist it - because to experience real truth and God love there are no spoken words to convey - only a feeling in the heart.
With all that said, I don't feel words should be totally disregarded because often times we may be experiencing something in our life that inhibits our natural ability to act in truth - and this is when words become a powerful and helpful tool to convey a message. I just think we need to be open to receive the message spoken through both actions and words with a strong sense of awareness, and I think we need to be particularly aware of the messages we are sending through both as well!